Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Kit had to have more platelets today... and they are giving him anti fungal and anti bacterial medicines around the clock.. and hopefully they will be able to destroy the things that they find in the blood that Kit's blood can't fight , because he does not have any good white blood cells to fight infections.
The bone marrow test went fine and Kit is asleep... mumbling and rambling on and on. This behavior was frightening for me at first, because I was afraid that he was going to be like this forever... but it is just how Kit handles drugs and certain medicines. He is just talking up a storm.. with many of you .. with his kids... with the doctors here...etc... I see how much he loves people , because the mental state that he is in ... is not a fearful place... but a loving place.
We will not find out for a few days the results of the bone marrow tap, because tomorrow is New Years...
This past year has been a year with much pain and much joy.... but I know that you are all praying that 2009 will bring good news for Kit . It is so awesome to read the blog and realize that people from everywhere.... Hawaii, Calif. , Oregon, Wash. Arizona, Colorado, Idaho, Texas, Chile,Honduras, Greece and etc.. are praying for us. We are connected by this blog.... it is amazing ..it's like how Jesus is with each one of us all at the same time all over the world... He is infinite..
We have been so blessed by all of you... how much you love us and care for us. We are praying that you have a wonderful and safe New Years Eve!!!! and that in the New Year ,the Lord will bring you even closer to Him.
Love,shelly and Kit
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
The infectious disease doctor called a little while ago to say that the recent blood work identified some strange flagellum, so they started Kit on some new medicine. Kim Insley-Morell said that she knew about the roller coaster ride.. because of what she went through when Randy died of cancer many years ago. It is such an up and down ride... but we contiue to pray to our Lord for strength and healing , we play our worship music, read our daily devotional, our Bible and another special book that Mikey's mother in law bought for me years ago...and with your prayers.... we are getting through each day.
For Christmas, I had bought Kit a special photo of a honu.( turtle)..because Kit has a special love for turtles because of Mikey. I had Maisha bring the photo over here for
Christmas and it is on the wall in our room. I just told one of our favorite doctor's the story of "turtle life" when Randy Insley died years ago....and Mikey ( a four year old) thought that eternal life was "turtle life"... and Mikey asked Kit if "Randy got to go live with the turtles now? "
Well ...I am signing off. I love you guys.. and I am so thankful to be here with Kit and to have you lifting us up in prayer.
Love,shelly
Most of Kit's infection is in his nasal sinus' now. His eye is so much better. It is completely open now.
The oncologist came in this a.m. and said that Kit's bone marrow tap will be tomorrow at 10:00a.m. Because New Years day is the next day, we will not get results as quickly as we would like. I know that all of you will be praying for miraculous results and I thank you for that.
Reading the comments by each of you is very encouraging. Thank you for taking the time.. thank you for your prayers... thank you for loving Maisha and Mikey (too)as you do.
Love,shelly and Kit
Monday, December 29, 2008
We are very pleased with the nursing staff and doctor's here at Kaiser. We know they are doing their best to help fight the infections etc.
We are so thankful for all of your prayers... and loving thoughts..And Dionei, I know that you love us...so never say that you are a terrible friend. Kit and I are so blessed to have the family and friends that we have. We are continually thanking God for you all. I hope that you really KNOW how your love inspires us. Love,Shelly and Kit
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Bad Night for Kit...
I just spoke with my mom and my dad had a very difficult night. My dad (and my mom) could really use prayer.
The power went out on Oahu and, they have some things on a generator at the hospital, but not everything. The lights in the rooms did not work, and unfortunately my dad was sick throughout the night and the pick line came out of his arm and was bleeding everywhere. They had to try to put it back in with flashlights.
My dad is a little better this morning. He is on pain meds and it's difficult for him to communicate what he's feeling and what he needs to my mom. He's very tired and his mind is very slow. I know it's frustrating for both of them.
Another thing is that my dad's eye is pretty much swollen shut and they are afraid that it is an infection. They thought it was allergies because he had reactions to meds before. They are doing a scan on it today. Eye infections like this can be very dangerous because the eye is an extension of the brain and it could potentially be fatal if they don't get it under control. He is already on many antibiotics.
Please pray that the Lord comforts my dad and sustains him, and also that my mom is comforted.
This is all so difficult but I am trying to keep you guys aware of everything because we really need and appreciate the prayer!
love, the Lauers
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas
I mentioned before that my dad is still battling infections, so he could use prayer that they would stay under control.
Also, it seems that one or more of the medications are having an effect on my dad's mind...he is not lucid all of the time. We pray that this will get better and that nothing is permanent. It's very difficult for him to carry on conversations right now.
My dad is relying on God to hold him up for the next 12 to 13 days until the bone marrow test. We are all praying that his blood counts will come back up, that the chemo worked on the bone marrow, and that there will be no major complications.
Our deepest gratitude for your love and support!
Happy Christmas and a wonderful 2009!!
All our love,
Maisha, Shelly and Kit
Monday, December 22, 2008
Monday Update
This is Kit here! Just a small break in the storm long enough to post a short not to you. My heart is saddened because I can't come to the Wednesday Christmas eve. service. I was so looking forward to speaking that night, for my heart is simply filled with your love, support and prayers and your never giving up on me "attitude". And know this, that I won't give up either until the Lord says "let go". I look forward to that day, but today is a day for battle. Tuesday will be the fifth and final treatment day and then I have fourteen days to wait for a bone marrow test to see how deep the cleansing of the cancer cells has gone. Just making it through this third chemo treatment will be a miracle in itself. But, the greatest miracle of all, of course, is that God would enter His own creation by taking on the additional nature of a man. That God would care enough about each of as to give His Son for our failures, weaknesses and sins and all this before we had even acknowledged Him, while most of us were just 'sinnin it up' out there in the world. God, looking from eternity to eternity, saw the potential loss of His creation, so he stepped in to save us from ourselves...and the most amazing thing is that God entered this world as a helpless little baby boy and at the moment of Jesus' birth the shadow of the Cross fell upon that manger. Thank you Jesus for giving your life for ours in order that we could receive the gift of everlasting which you hold in your hand. We stop in our busy schedules and punch lists...we pull back from our myopic view of life, our circumstances and complaints, yes even from our pain and suffering to give you thanks this Christmas and to offer our selves as living presents to you. Let our lives shine so brightly with love for one another this Christmas...in order that you would be gloried.
I love you guys...keep up those prayers...let's see what God will do!
kit
Here's what is current and what we need prayer about:
1. My dad has one more day day of chemotherapy treatment. As we said before, these are older chemotherapy agents. When the Hawaii oncologists conferred with the doctors from City of Hope, they felt that he should try different chemotherapy agents since he did not go into remission before.
2. He is battling infections (as before) and probably will be for the next few weeks.
3. The blast (cancer) cells in his blood are being eliminated by the chemo but we do not know, until we do a bone marrow test, if they are working on the bone marrow. So, Kit would appreciate prayer on that. Also, please pray that when he does do the bone marrow test (not sure when, but maybe in the next 2 weeks), he would have no complications from it. Last time,there was some damage done and it was very painful for him...for weeks after.
4. My dad has had to take a lot of vicodin because of his horrible headaches...but these pain meds have side effects...and he is experiencing them. So, if you could pray against these side effects, that would be great.
Thank you!
love, Maisha
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Kit has finished 2 days of chemo now. The first day of chemo did knock down some of the cancer cells in his blood, so hopefully the next three treatments will destroy all of them in his blood and bone marrow. The doctors here have conferred with the City of Hope doctors and they recommended 2 chemos that were older , that Kit did not use before. We are hoping that these destroy his blast cells. One of them is cobalt blue and makes his urine blue.. hopefully the urologists were prepared for the strange looking sample.
Kit had a really hard night last night, his head felt like it was going to explode. Hopefully , it will be a better night tonight.
I can not tell you how much we appreciate your love and prayers. Please keep lifting Kit up to the Lord.
We love you and we want to be home with you soon.
Shelly and Kit
Friday, December 19, 2008
A word from Kit
Love in Christ forever and ever
kit
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Wednesday Update From Maisha...
My dad is battling allergic reactions though (he experienced that before) where he gets all puffy and one of his eyes was swollen shut last night. It's from the antibiotics and may also be from the blood transfusions. He's doing a bit better with that this morning though.
His blood pressure was dangerously low last night and they almost took him to ICU, but that's better as well. My guess is that it was because his red blood cells were so low, and once the transfusion started working and his body got used to it, he was doing better...but I'm not sure.
My dad is still thinking about starting on mylotarg (I spelled it wrong before) after he's feeling a little better...but he also wants to be home on Maui for Christmas.
Thanks sooo much for your love and prayers!!
Maisha
Love,
Maisha
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Friday, December 12, 2008
Update From Kit...
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Friday, December 5, 2008
Mele Kalikimaka Family and Friends
2008 has been an eventful year for our family. I know that most of you know that Kit was diagnosed with acute leukemia one week before Good Friday. Before he started his chemo treatment on Oahu, he flew back to Maui and gave the Good Friday Service message at Hope Chapel. Mikey and Shae flew home from Oregon and we all spent Easter Sunday together and then Monday a.m. , he was off to Oahu to begin the treatment. Unfortunately, after 2 rounds of chemo, Kit’s body did not respond to the treatment and he was sent home to Maui after 2 ½ months in the hospital.
The chemo, infections, and antibiotics… almost destroyed Kit physically, but slowly, he got his strength back and began feeling better. Recently, his blood tests showed that his white blood cell counts were dangerously low...and he was worried that he was not going to be able to fly to Oregon and watch Mikey wrestle. (he had never seen Mikey wrestle in college yet) With God’s grace and antibiotics, Kit and Buddy flew out on Nov. 14th . They watched Mikey wrestle 7 matches, they spent time with my family( Carol, Diane, Kathie , Mike , Laura and Jared) who drove up to Oregon to see Kit and Buddy.
Kit was able to spend precious time with Mikey and Shae, the Vidlaks, the Browns, the Johnsons, the Crabtrees, the Smalls, the Hickmans, the Wilsons. The trip was such a blessing to Kit . He felt so good in Oregon and Shae’s relatives, treated Kit and Buddy with such care. They spent Thanksgiving at Danny and Steph’s house, the same beautiful house where Mikey and Shae were married on Sept. 8th 2007.
So…even though we are unsure of the future, we have so much to be thankful for. We have received so much love and support through this trial .Friends, clients, family and our church body have loved us so much that we are in awe. If you Google, Hope Chapel, Kihei, Maui, you can go on the Kit Lauer blog and see all the incredible things that our church did for us.
Maisha has been such a blessing to us. She comes over a lot and spends time with us. Kit always tells me how happy Maisha makes him and how he loves to hear her laugh. Maisha is working optometry at several places on Maui. She was able to go to Paraguay again this past summer on an eye mission trip. Maisha and Mikey and Shae bring Kit the most joy in his life.
Mikey is finishing up his senior year at Southern Oregon University. He and Shae live in Ashland and hopefully after this summer, they will move back to Maui. Mikey is wrestling and hopefully, if he survives all his injuries, he will have a good season. He wants to teach on Maui… hopefully, there will be a job here for him.
I still have my cleaning business and I have the most awesome partner, Yuko, who helps me everyday. When I was in Oahu with Kit…she ran the whole business. I have great clients, and I am thankful for the work. I have a very thankful heart at this time in my life. I appreciate each minute that I have Kit in my life. He has been the best husband and father that anyone could have. If God does not heal him, I know that Kit is not afraid to die, because he knows that he will be living eternally with the ONE whose birthday we celebrate this month. We have felt Christ’s presence through this whole ordeal…He has been our strength…”Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, goodwill toward men!” Luke 2:14
Thank you for being in our life…we love you and we pray that God will do wonderful things in your life in 2009!
Love,
Shelly and the Lauer family
Monday, December 1, 2008
Kit Is So Proud Of Mike (Mikey to Many of Us :)
This is one of the main reasons Kit went to Oregon - to see Mikey wrestle, so we wanted to share with you some of the action shots :) Kit is so proud of Mikey, and we are too!
Coming up next is Shelly's Christmas letter to family and friends. Stay tuned :)
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
THANKFUL
The Lauer family has much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Over the past eight months or so, we have experienced so much love and support from friends and family. You ALL have been amazing and we thank God for you! We have also felt the hand of our Lord every step of the way...we have a God full of Magnanimity! (that's for those of you who read Kit's blog while he was in the hospital :)
My dad is still in Oregon and doing great! His energy level has even slightly improved. We would greatly appreciate your prayers for him as he travels back home to Maui on friday. the McManus family has been so generous and upgraded my dad and Uncle Buddy to first class...we love you guys!
I already mentioned previously that my dad got to see much of my mom's family on his visit which was a huge blessing. I wanted to add that my dad got to see my Aunt Becky's mom and dad (Doug and Edie) who could use prayers over their health as well. He was reunited with the Johnson family (from Oregon), Jon Small, the Hickmans, and the Crabtrees...who are all very dear to us and we are very thankful for all of them :-) My dad has also been cared for and loved on by Shae's family (Mikey's in-laws). They are our family now, and we love them!!
The last thing I want to mention is that Kit's oncologists would like him to start a new med which has a 25% chance of working and has similar side effects as chemotherapy. Basically, my dad would be taking the chance of becoming more sick with infection for a fairly small chance that it could make him better. Kit would be really grateful for your prayers on this decision...as would we!
Much Love,
Maisha
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Updates On Kit's Oregon Visit
I know my dad is so proud of Mikey! Another blessing is that my dad got to see his two sisters-in-law and much of my mom's family...they came up from Northern California :)
My dad started to have a reaction (hives) to the antibiotic so he's going to stop the antibiotic and take benadryl tonight. We pray that he has no complications over there and that he makes it home safe to Maui for Christmas!
Thanks for the love and support :-)
Maisha
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thank You Prayer Warriors - The Oregon Trip Update
...My dad is doing pretty well. He's so excited to be in Oregon with Mikey ,and he got to watch Mikey wrestle 5 wrestling matches last weekend. He has not gotten sick (he did start antibiotics before he left, which we were very thankful for) and his energy level is pretty good!
He will be there for another week, so continued prayers would be great, especially for the flight home :)
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Attention Prayer Warriors
He (Kit) got a blood test done yesterday and his immune system is very low (especially in fighting off bacteria). His red blood cells which supply oxygen and energy are also steadily dropping. We are very thankful that he has not had any infections and that he had enough energy to be at my birthday party and speak at two services! My main prayer is for him traveling to Oregon...he plans to visit my brother in a little more than a week, and he will be very vulnerable on the plane. Thanks for all the love and support.
Much love,
Maisha
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Kit speaking Sunday both services
This message, 'The Season of Loss', will be available on mp3 at hopechapelmaui.com mid-week of November 3rd
Please continue to pray for WBC's and RBC's to go up to normal range. Also pray for my planned to trip November 14th -28th to watch my son wrestle in Oregon (pray for protection from illness on the plane and throughout the trip). God is doing a great miracle in me!
With much gratitude for you persistent love,
kit
Thursday, October 23, 2008
giving it away!
May the Lord empower your life today to do what is right and good in His sight!
In His love
kit
Saturday, October 18, 2008
You keep me going!
I love you dearly and I thank God everyday for your prayers and support!
kit
Monday, October 13, 2008
A wonderful gift!
In His love forever and with deep gratitude for yours,
kit
Saturday, October 11, 2008
The Journey
with love from Liza :)
Monday, October 6, 2008
kit teaching this friday night
In His love
Kit
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Kit teaching this Sunday
In His love forever,
kit
Saturday, September 27, 2008
About Friday Night
Love forever and still overwhelmed by yours!
kit
Thursday, September 25, 2008
working away!
whose thoughts are fixed on you!" Isaiah 26:3 ...the only way I can keep the fear at bay in my life is by focusing my thoughts on God. My prayer for you today is that you would find His perfect peace as you fix your thoughts on Him, the lover of your soul, the one who purchased you for all eternity with His on blood so you could know His peace, His love and eternal life in Him. Keep up the prayers!
I love you
kit
Monday, September 22, 2008
Kit teaching friday night
Love
kit
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Happy to be here
Please continue to pray for my white cells to go up (the % of nutraphils) so I can be close to everyone and so I can continue to teach and be of service... And don't stop praying for the big miracle as well...a complete healing. This would be a miracle never before seen by the medical profession...wouldn't that be something!?
If anyone would like the CD's of the seminar on the Cosmological discussion on God's existence or How to convince your skeptical friend that God exists, simply request copies by e-mailing John.hazdovac@hopechapelmaui.com and John will send you copies of the seminar on CD.
In great appreciation for your love & prayers,
kit
Monday, September 15, 2008
Another day given
My love and God's Blessings
kit
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Apologetics Seminar on Sept. 13th
Kit Lauer Ph.D will be conducting a seminar Saturday, September 13th at the Hope Chapel Auditorium in Kihei from 8:00am until 12:30pm. This seminar will help the Christian believer demonstrate the necessity of God’s existence through modern cosmology and logic.
This study will include a continental breakfast and study materials at the cost of $15 per persons or $10 for 18 years and younger.
It will answer questions and give reasons for:
Why God must be uncreated or infinite
Why God must be one and not a multiplicity
Why God cannot change
Why God must be personal (have volition or will)
Why God must be good
Why God must be omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient
Basically, this seminar will help increase your understanding of why the God of the Bible must be the only true God there is.
To register or for more information call Kimberly Brown @ 870-7292 or call the Hope Chapel office @ 879-3853.
Monday, August 25, 2008
Kit will speak at all 3 services this weekend
It is a pleasure to be able to speak at the services this coming weekend. God has given me the strength because of your prayers for me. Friday Night's message and both Sunday messages will be on the 'Value of Children and Families' ...oh...and how well I know that value! Not only has my own family stepped up to love and encourage me through this difficult journey, but the church family has gone off the charts in their love and support. I have loving families who have embraced me like an adopted son literally all over this nation and the world. They have prayed for me, encouraged me and supported me in every way. Family is awesome! And our children are our treasures! This is why our children and our families are a Core value at Hope Chapel. We recognize their great value and we are pledged to growing strong and healthy children and families who will make a positive impact on the world around them and bring glory to God.
I want you to know that as you pray for me I am praying for you, your family and your children. I am praying for those of us with children to understand and embrace the wonderful treasure God has given us and to do all we can to honor that treasure...to be quick to show vulnerability, to demonstrate asking for forgiveness when we mess up, to love them through everything like God loves us, never turning our back on them, to teach them, train them and pour our lives into them in order that they may be healthy and strong in a very unhealthy world. I am praying that you will do all you can to hold onto to family, to leave room for one an other's faults, to leave room for growth, but to hold onto one another through it all, to work to celebrate the gift of family even when sometimes it is tough...and to embrace the joy of family helping to be faithful and honest and trustworthy with one another, building a family that is strong and healthy...this bring glory to God.
I encourage you in your struggles, your defeats and your victories to stay the course, to be keepers of the great gift of children and family. May God strengthen you and make you courageous and bless you for doing all that is good and pure and lovely...for in so doing you bring some of heaven to earth.
Thanks for all your continued prayers and support. My blood counts were good this week except my whites are still down, please pray for the white cells to go up to the normal range so I can fight infections. We are all still so amazed at what God is doing as He has sustained me for the last 12 weeks. You are my sustaining power, your prayers, your love, your encouragement and support. I can't thank you enough for your persistence.
With great love,
Kit
Friday, August 22, 2008
Thanks from Kit
I love you very much!
With a thankful heart for you!
kit
ps: I will be teaching at Hope Chapel, prayerfully, Friday and Sunday August 29th - 31st on the Core Value of children and families
Monday, August 18, 2008
Praise Report and Prayer Request - Please Continue to Pray
Thank you for your prayers this weekend regarding Kit's white blood cells. He got his results yesterday and his count did rise slightly from 2.3 to 2.5. They are going in the right direction. Your prayers are making a difference. Please continue to pray that his white blood cells will continue to increase along with the miracle that Kit will be completely healed.
Prayer Request For Daniel Mauck:
Our Worship Pastors son Daniel Mauck, 16 yrs old, was in a skateboarding accident last Fri (Aug. 15th) and was taken to the hospital unconscious. He is now in ICU at Maui Memorial hospital. Daniel has fractured his skull and there is bruising in his brain. The doctors said that Daniel will probably be unconscious several days. Pray that there won't be any complications and that Daniel will be healed to complete recovery. Please keep Daniel and the Mauck family in your prayers.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
A Note from Kit:)
With all my heart and love
Kit
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Kit starting a new series...yes, Dr. Kit is teaching!
Hey, folks, Josh writing for Kit...
Kit is busy preparing a message for his teaching...this Friday, August 1st... on his new series, Changing into Ourselves.
Kit describes it this wasy, "The idea is that we have identified who we think we are and what we do, but really, we need to change to actually become that! It’s like as Christians and a church we see ourselves as what God wants us to be, but God says no, we need to change to become who we think we are…"
Be there!
Friday, July 25, 2008
kit speaks:)
PS...I will be leading a prayer for healing this Sunday evening at Hope Chapel 6:00PM...I send all my love and thanks to you for your continued prayers and support.
kit
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
2 Corinthians 4:1-18
2Co 4:1 Therefore, since through God’s mercy we have this ministry, we do not lose heart. 2 Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God. 3 And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. 4 The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. 5 For we do not preach ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Jesus’ sake. 6 For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ.
2Co 4:7 But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. 8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. 11 For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. 12 So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.
2Co 4:13 It is written: “I believed; therefore I have spoken.” With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak, 14 because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you in his presence. 15 All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.
2Co 4:16 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardlyl we are being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Kit's Teaching on July 11 and 13 - Now Available
They sang during the offering on that July 13th Service.
As always, feel free to leave your encouraging comments to Kit. And we know you are all praying for his healing and recovery. Your love, prayers, support, and comments for the Lauer family are all very much appreciated. - Liza
Friday, July 18, 2008
The Blessing Of Cancer (by Tony Snow)
Love, Maisha
"The Blessing of Cancer",
written by Tony Snow (Fox News) in October, 2007:
Blessings arrive in unexpected packages, - in my case, cancer. Those of us with potentially fatal diseases - and there are millions in America today find ourselves in the odd position of coping with our mortality while trying to fathom God's will. Although it would be the height of presumption to declare with confidence "What It All Means," Scripture provides powerful hints and consolations. The first is that we shouldn't spend too much time trying to answer the "why" questions: Why me? Why must people suffer? Why can't someone else get sick? We can't answer such things, and the questions themselves often are designed more to express our anguish than to solicit an answer. I don't know why I have cancer, and I don't much care. It is what it is, a plain and indisputable fact. Yet even while staring into a mirror darkly, great and stunning truths begin to take shape. Our maladies define a central feature of our existence: We are fallen. We are imperfect. Our bodies give out. But despite this, or because of it, God offers the possibility of salvation and grace. We don't know how the narrative of our lives will end, but we get to choose how to use the interval between now and the moment we meet our Creator face-to-face. Second, we need to get past the anxiety. The mere thought of dying can send adrenaline flooding through your system. A dizzy, unfocused panic seizes you. Your heart thumps; your head swims. You think of nothingness and swoon. You fear partings; you worry about the impact on family and friends. You fidget and get nowhere. To regain footing, remember that we were born not into death, but into life and that the journey continues after we have finished our days on this earth. We accept this on faith, but that faith is nourished by a conviction that stirs even within many non believing hearts an intuition that the gift of life, once given, cannot be taken away. Those who have been stricken enjoy the special privilege of being able to fight with their might, main, and faith to live fully, richly, and exuberantly no matter how their days may be numbered. Third, we can open our eyes and hearts. God relishes surprise. We want lives of simple, predictable ease,- smooth, even trails as far as the eye can see, but God likes to go off-road. He provokes us with twists and turns. He places us in predicaments that seem to defy our endurance; and comprehension and yet don't. By His love and grace, we persevere. The challenges that make our hearts leap and stomachs churn invariably strengthen our faith and grant measures of wisdom and joy we would not experience otherwise. 'You Have Been Called'. Picture yourself in a hospital bed. The fog of anesthesia has begun to wear away. A doctor stands at your feet; a loved one holds your hand at the side. "It's cancer," the healer announces. The natural reaction is to turn to God and ask him to serve as a cosmic Santa. "Dear God, make it all go away. Make everything simpler." But another voice whispers: "You have been called." Your quandary has drawn you closer to God, closer to those you love, closer to the issues that matter, and has dragged into insignificance the banal concerns that occupy our "normal time." There's another kind of response, although usually short-lived an inexplicable shudder of excitement, as if a clarifying moment of calamity has swept away everything trivial and tiny, and placed before us the challenge of important questions. The moment you enter the Valley of the Shadow of Death, things change. You discover that Christianity is not something doughy, passive, pious, and soft. Faith may be the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. But it also draws you into a world shorn of fearful caution. The life of belief teems with thrills, boldness, danger, shocks, reversals, triumphs, and epiphanies. Think of Paul, traipsing though the known world and contemplating trips to what must have seemed the antipodes ( Spain ), shaking the dust from his sandals, worrying not about the morrow, but only about the moment. There's nothing wilder than a life of humble virtue, for it is through selflessness and service that God wrings from our bodies and spirits the most we ever could give, the most we ever could offer, and the most we ever could do. Finally, we can let love change everything. When Jesus was faced with the prospect of crucifixion, he grieved not for himself, but for us. He cried for Jerusalem before entering the holy city. From the Cross, he took on the cumulative burden of human sin and weakness, and begged for forgiveness on our behalf. We get repeated chances to learn that life is not about us, that we acquire purpose and satisfaction by sharing in God's love for others. Sickness gets us part way there. It reminds us of our limitations and dependence. But it also gives us a chance to serve the healthy. A minister friend of mine observes that people suffering grave afflictions often acquire the faith of two people, while loved ones accept the burden of two peoples' worries and fears. 'Learning How to Live'. Most of us have watched friends as they drifted toward God's arms, not with resignation, but with peace and hope. In so doing, they have taught us not how to die, but how to live. They have emulated Christ by transmitting the power and authority of love. I sat by my best friend's bedside a few years ago as a wasting cancer took him away. He kept at his table a worn Bible and a 1928 edition of the Book of Common Prayer. A shattering grief disabled his family, many of his old friends, and at least one priest. Here was an humble and very good guy, someone who apologized when he winced with pain because he thought it made his guest uncomfortable. He retained his equanimity and good humor literally until his last conscious moment. "I'm going to try to beat [this cancer]," he told me several months before he died. "But if I don't, I'll see you on the other side." His gift was to remind everyone around him that even though God doesn't promise us tomorrow, he does promise us eternity, filled with life and love we cannot comprehend, - and that one can in the throes of sickness point the rest of us toward timeless truths that will help us weather future storms. Through such trials, God bids us to choose: Do we believe, or do we not? Will we be bold enough to love, daring enough to serve, humble enough to submit, and strong enough to acknowledge our limitations? Can we surrender our concern in things that don't matter so that we might devote our remaining days to things that do? When our faith flags, he throws reminders in our way. Think of the prayer warriors in our midst. They change things, and those of us who have been on the receiving end of their petitions and intercessions know it. It is hard to describe, but there are times when suddenly the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, and you feel a surge of the Spirit. Somehow you just know: Others have chosen, when talking to the Author of all creation, to lift us up, to speak of us! This is love of a very special order. But so is the ability to sit back and appreciate the wonder of every created thing. The mere thought of death somehow makes every blessing vivid, every happiness more luminous and intense. We may not know how our contest with sickness will end, but we have felt the ineluctable touch of God. What is man that Thou art mindful of him? We don't know much, but we know this: No matter where we are, no matter what we do, no matter how bleak or frightening our prospects, each and every one of us who believe, each and every day, lies in the same safe and impregnable place, in the hollow of God's hand."
Tony went to be with the Lord June 12, 2008 .